Men. When you are in your mid twenties they become interesting factors of discussion because soon you have to marry one of these. There is broad speculation everywhere. Everyone around you has so many questions. Why aren't you married yet? Do you have someone? Are your parents looking for you? And any answer to these are followed by a next set of questions.
So why is the marriage discussion so important? God Knows! So anyway since I have been a part of this discussion time and again I keep hearing this one piece of advice from a lot of people.
Hey you have so many dreams to fulfill.. Why don't you marry a very rich guy?
Hey so this guy your dad is talking about how much does he earn?
How many houses do they own?
Tuhje shaadi ke baad job nehi karni na.. tu ek amir ladke se shaadi kar le.... and so on.
It shocks me to hear this repeatedly. I mean is that the biggest parameter? Why? Its 2013. We want equal rights for women in everything. We want women to be treated at par with men yet we, the same people, put a big question mark in front of her abilities by asking her to safe guard herself in the wallet of a man.
I don't believe that's required. Being a women I know I have the competency, the potential to fulfill my aspirations without the shelter of wealth of my husband. What bothers me more is that how can someone's package be the deciding factor for marriage? What happened to likes, dislikes, understanding and most importantly morals. You heard me right. Well Money to an extent is okay but money is not enough to decide who you want to spend the rest of your life with. I mean what is a rich man with no character?
The aunties, chachis and Mrs XYZeee's are big culprits in this matter. Wo ladka achha hai! they will say..
followed by 15 lakh ka package hai uska..! what an icing on the cake your mom will think. Trust me these aunties are just bored of their own married life and have nothing better to do but shower people with advises here and there.
I would say find your self someone who has the same morals as you do. Someone who makes you laugh harder than you ever have. Some who understands you, knows your weakness and can handle you in your worst. Someone who matches your frequency.
Money, you will make ladies, but you cannot make a Man out of a bundle of notes. So choose wisely.
