Good Night

Some beautiful thoughts one must pen down each night,
Some feelings, some ideas whatever seeps the mind.
Some wonderful memories one must open the window to,
And smile a while, or cry a bit.

Some pictures from the day, one should close their eyes and click,
and paint some words onto the frame and save it under the lids.
When the lids close let them bring a smile
and while those lashes meet let them snap a wonderful memory inside.
And when you go to sleep, give your self a pair or wings,
fly yourself to No-land, singing beneath the winds.
 Feel the ecstasy taking yourself places you've never been.
So what if this is all but in a dream!?

Are we on the same page?

You: "You are selfish!"
Me: "No I'm not!"

You: "Yes you are.. It is evident from the choices you made."

Me: "I chose what I did because of the situation. And if I still had a choice, I would choose differently. Also my current situation favors my choice."

You: "You ask a third person, get their opinion, and tell me if they don't agree with me."
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Me: Am I selfish?
My mind: ..no you're not

Me: But what if I am?
My mind: I'm telling you, you are not..

Me: How do you know? You're MY mind. You understand what I feed you. You think I'm not selfish because I've taught you the definition of selfish. What if selfishness has a different definition, a different meaning? Do you think all the selfish people in this world are aware that they are selfish? Do you think we are apt to judge ourselves?
My mind: Alright let me for a second believe that you are selfish. Let me believe that this is the correct definition. Then tell me who is not? Tell me how to judge the opposite of selfish. Program me so that I can differentiate.

Me: The point is I'm selfish to a degree. Everyone is. The degree to which I am selfish, I consider that within the benchmark. Within the limits of what one is allowed to be.

My mind: Does selfishness make you happy?
Me: What!?

My mind: Tell me, Does being selfish make you happy? Are you happy being within the ‘benchmark’?
Me: I’m okay being within the benchmark. I like doing what I want to do. Having the freedom to feed the ‘self’ in selfish isn’t too bad. 

My mind: Well then does it matter that someone thinks you are selfish?
Me: No it doesn’t!, but our happiness is interdependent - since when i don’t know - but that puts me in a difficult situation.

My mind: Your happiness, your freedom, your decisions is what make you, you. Even though your happiness is interdependent, you shouldn’t cause unhappiness to yourself just to make someone else happy. It shouldn't destroy your peace. Always be at peace with yourself. You are of utmost importance to you. You are your angel, you are your devil. 

Me: So you think i’m not wrong? 
My mind: No!!
Me: Wow! That helped a lot. I wasn’t sure how to feel but now I am feel a lot better.

My mind: Good to know, but don’t trust me either!
Me: Why not? You just explained everything so well!!

My Mind: And who programs how I justify things? Who feeds logic in me? 
Me: Me!

My Mind:Well, have a good day!

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You: So did you get a 3rd person opinion?
Me: Yes I did.

You: And…? Are we on the same page?
Me: Maybe. Maybe Not. You’ll never know.

Solitude

You call it loneliness. I call it pleasure with self.
You say you need people around you, I say my mind is companion enough.
I don't need to be spoken to, I'd rather  listen to the voices in my head.
I don't need a cell phone, a beep and an urge to turn my attention to it. I'd rather disconnect.
Leave it around somewhere in the house and lose touch with the world at end.
Small talk? I'm not interested. I'd rather isolate.
Gossip? Keep that to yourself, that's the last thing that arouses my brain.
If only you knew how to cave through my mind and intrigue the deepest thoughts.
If only you knew how to sit in the same room and not speak a word.
To feel utter bliss in wilderness, if only you knew, the pleasures of solitude.

Do the right thing.

A recent incident in my workplace disturbed me a lot. Lots of questions flooded my mind. Should I or should I not go against the system? Should I raise my voice? Or should I resort to social norms and keep my mouth shut? But then I decided that sometimes you have to stand up for what you believe. Sometimes you have to do the right thing. You may not be able to please everyone but you'll please the person within you. You may end up breaking a few ties but you'll grow a stronger one with yourself. Whatever the consequences may be, when you know you are doing the right thing, do it without the blink of an eye. 

Happy Birthday to Me!

I feel blessed. I feel wonderful. And I feel miraculously happy :)
Its my birthday n I'm surrounded with such wonderful people that I can't help but feel great. It's that time of the year when I count my blessing, have a little more hope that my prayers will be answered (God can't say no to me on my birthday na ;))
So here goes my list (of things that I'm thankful for)
1)  My wonderful parents. Thay made me the brilliant-independent kid that I am ;)

2) My sisters. You are friends who I can discuss shit, fart, unwanted relatives, my fat arms and any topic in the whole wide world  and also shop with! Seriously when girls don't have sisters who do they shop with???

3) My friends. You guys are why I look forward to Saturday Sundays n lightening my mood anytime and every time. Also I CANNOT IMAGINE LIFE WITHOUT YOU.

4) Dreams. I'm thankful that I have plenty of dreams! There are so many things to fulfil till I'm 99! I cannot absolutely image a soul who lives without any dreams they want to fulfill/achieve.

5) GOD. Can you believe that he actually talks back to me?  Neither can I!

So happy birthday to me n thank you (who ever responsible for the above list).

 May I feel happiness always :)

Indian Men-Tally-Ty

Men. When you are in your mid twenties they become interesting factors of discussion because soon you have to marry one of these. There is broad speculation everywhere. Everyone around you has so many questions. Why aren't you married yet? Do you have someone? Are your parents looking for you? And any answer to these are followed by a next set of questions. 
     So why is the marriage discussion so important? God Knows! So anyway since I have been a part of this discussion time and again I keep hearing this one piece of advice from a lot of people.

Hey you have so many dreams to fulfill.. Why don't you marry a very rich guy?  
Hey so this guy your dad is talking about how much does he earn?  
How many houses do they own? 
Tuhje shaadi ke baad job nehi karni na.. tu ek amir ladke se shaadi kar le.... and so on.
    
     It shocks me to hear this repeatedly. I mean is that the biggest parameter? Why?  Its 2013. We want equal rights for women in everything. We want women to be treated at par with men yet we, the same people, put a big question mark in front of her abilities by asking her to safe guard herself in the wallet of a man. 
     
    I don't believe that's required. Being a women I know I have the competency, the potential to fulfill my aspirations without the shelter of wealth of my husband. What bothers me more is that how can someone's package be the deciding factor for marriage? What happened to likes, dislikes, understanding and most importantly morals. You heard me right. Well Money to an extent is okay but money is not enough to decide who you want to spend the rest of your life with. I mean what is a rich man with no character? 
    
    The aunties, chachis and Mrs XYZeee's are big culprits in this matter. Wo ladka achha hai! they will say..
followed by 15 lakh ka package hai uska..! what an icing on the cake your mom will think. Trust me these aunties are just bored of their own married life and have nothing better to do but shower people with advises here and there.

   I would say find your self someone who has the same morals as you do. Someone who makes you laugh harder than you ever have. Some who understands you, knows your weakness and can handle you in your worst. Someone who matches your frequency. 

Money, you will make ladies, but you cannot make a Man out of a bundle of notes. So choose wisely.

The Power of Dreams

Freedom. Not from others but from ourselves. Freedom from the web of our minds. From that Force which pulls us Back to that Power which pushes us Forward to pursue our dreams. To do our Will. To be faithful to ourselves- to the dreamer inside us. Because that Dreamer believes in you, knows your Strength and that's why it Dreams.